Marriage. Shaadi. Kalyanam. Vivaah. Nikaah. Parinaya. These words have been the
cornerstone of our society for centuries. Today the institution often finds itself facing questions
in the modern realm of love. Why then, amid a multitude of relationship options available,
should I choose the path of “I do”?
The truth is, marriage isn’t a fairy tale ending. It’s more like a well-matched hit and trial of two
batsmen. Ready to have it out and all on the field– a journey ahead of a shared life and vision
perhaps. That is our best guess. It demands commitment, consistency, and a willingness to grow
alongside another person. Every single morning, whether you wake up next to them or not.
Imagine navigating life’s inevitable icks with a companion by your side. Someone who celebrates
your victories with Italian recipes, offers to do laundry on a Sunday, holds your hand through
career setbacks, and provides a constant shoulder of encouragement. Or one to cry on. Marriage
is this unwavering support system. Studies suggest married couples tend to experience greater
well-being, both physically and emotionally. This sense of security and shared purpose can
contribute to a more fulfilling life.
It is more than just shared finances and social obligations. It’s a continuous learning experience
for personal development. You learn to navigate differences, develop effective communication
skills, and appreciate each other’s unique perspectives. It’s a constant process of self-discovery,
often revealing hidden strengths and a deeper understanding of oneself. After all there has to be
some sane explanation to leaving wet towels on the bed eh.
For many, marriage lays the groundwork for a family, a home built on love, friendship and
mutual respect. While not a necessity for everyone, marriage offers a stable environment that
can contribute to the well-being of children. Studies indicate that children raised in married
households tend to have stronger social connections and achieve greater academic success.
Finances are often a source of tension in any relationship. However, marriage can be a powerful
tool for achieving financial stability. By combining resources, divesting individual funds and
working towards shared goals, couples can create a sound financial bank. They can leverage
each other’s strengths, hold each other accountable for bad ITR decisions, and benefit from legal
and tax advantages associated with marriage.
It is not a one-size-fits-all solution. Fulfilling lives can be built outside the confines of
matrimony. However, for those who choose it, marriage offers a unique set of challenges and
rewards. It’s a partnership that encourages growth, celebrates life’s triumphs, and provides a
secure haven during the storm.
So, why marriage? Wrong question. Why not marriage?
So, you’re getting married? Congratulations! You’re also most probably on the precipice of a
nervous breakdown, drowning in a sea of save-the-dates and chaat menu options. Wedding
planning is that beautiful monster under the bed. But it should not suck the joy out of your big
day. So here’s your survival guide to achieving unconventional wedding zen:
Your feed makes weddings look like staged fairytales. Newsflash: They are staged, indeed. But
your day will in all likelihood be messy, unique, and absolutely alright in its own way. Let go of
the pressure to curate an Instagram-worthy ceremony. Embrace the rogue group of cousins
photobombing your vows or even a mimosa- drunk bride! It’s a spectrum of unexpected events.
And all you need to plan for is when can I get out of this gold zari fancy dress costume!
Forget freaking out. If you’re feeling the nerves or simply overwhelmed? Blast your favorite song
or have a solo dance party. Record voice notes of exactly how you were feeling and why. You will
look back at those audios and cringe but at least it helps to release those jitters, embrace the
absurdity, and strut through your pre-wedding commitments.
You are the main character on this day, yes. But keep reminding yourself that that is neither
playing Wonder Woman nor Superman. Delegate tasks! You can’t please everyone. Menaka
chaachi wants a shaahi band? Mahesh ji has strong opinions on centrepieces? Learn the art of
saying “no.” Your wedding is a celebration of your love, not a venue contest. Prioritise how you
are feeling including who and what matters to you and your partner the most.
Wedding planning is a marathon, not a sprint. Weddings can get bride- or groom-zilla-centric.
Escape to nature, have a spa day, or whatever de-stresses you. A well-rested, relaxed you is a
happy you (and a much better decision-maker). Remember, this is about celebrating your love
as a couple! Plan activities together, make decisions jointly, and focus on the joy of starting your
lives together.
Take a step back. In the grand scheme of things, a slightly lopsided cake or a simple speech
won’t matter. What will matter is the lifelong commitment you make to your partner. Focus on
the love, laughter, and memories you’ll create, not the minor hiccups. At the end of the day, your
wedding is a party to celebrate your love with your favourite people. Let loose and soak in the joy
of your special day.
Bonus Tip: Hire a dance instructor to choreograph a killer first dance with your partner.
By prioritising your well-being, you can approach your wedding with a sense of humour,
perspective, and most importantly, joy. After all, the most important element of your wedding
day isn’t the flowers or the cake – it’s the love you share with your partner. Now go forth,
celebrate your love story, and don’t forget to record all the dances!